I Curated My Healing—88 Days at a Time

There’s a myth that healing has to be slow. That it has to be linear. That it has to look a certain way.

But when I stepped into my own healing from PTSD, burnout, and identity loss—I decided I would curate my way forward, gently but with power. I designed and lived through the 88 Days Plan not as a rigid system, but as a soft, science-informed framework for transformation. And it changed everything. 

✨ Here’s what happened in just 88 days: I began healing faster by working with my nervous system, not against it I made my life simpler but more delightful—clearing clutter, calming chaos, and choosing joy over productivity I grew as a person with structure that felt safe enough to stretch me And I started exploring pleasure as power—not just as a momentary feeling, but as a soulful return to embodiment and desire

🧠 Why it works (yep, there's science behind the softness)

Habit change happens best with structure + safety.
The 88 Days Plan taps into the psychology of habit formation, which shows that consistent small changes are more effective than dramatic overhauls. Research by Lally et al. (2010) found that habit formation takes an average of 66 days, but with support and clarity, it can happen faster and with more sustainability.

Embodiment accelerates emotional regulation.
By integrating body-based check-ins and pleasure practices, I wasn’t just “thinking” my way through healing. I was feeling it. Studies show that somatic awareness can reduce trauma symptoms, increase resilience, and restore connection between body and self (Payne, Levine, & Crane-Godreau, 2015).

Narrative reframing = identity repair.
Using reflective prompts and story-based exercises in the 88 Days Plan allowed me to re-author my internal narrative. According to White & Epston’s narrative therapy framework, this helps individuals make meaning of their suffering and reclaim personal agency (White & Epston, 1990).

Pleasure isn’t extra—it’s medicine.
In trauma recovery, pleasure can feel unsafe. But integrating small, body-based pleasures (movement, scent, music, warmth) helps regulate the vagus nerve and build felt safety—a key factor in polyvagal theory (Porges, 2011). This is what turns sensuality into a healing tool.

🔥 My 88 Days (each time I re-started) weren’t perfect. But they were powerful. I didn’t need a radical reinvention—I needed a repeatable rhythm. 
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Something that met me in my mess and reminded me of my magic. Now, this is what I help others build:
A life that isn’t just healed—it’s curated.
Delightful. Disciplined. Soul-filling.

🪞Want to try? Start with the Free 88 Days Starter Kit and see how simple shifts can unlock massive growth.
Or book a Coffee Coaching Session and we’ll map it out together. This isn’t about perfection.
It’s about powerful softness, science-backed growth, and coming home to yourself—88 days at a time. With softness and fire,

Daria
📚 References (APA 7th Edition):
Lally, P., van Jaarsveld, C. H., Potts, H. W., & Wardle, J. (2010). How are habits formed: Modelling habit formation in the real world. European Journal of Social Psychology, 40(6), 998–1009. https://doi.org/10.1002/ejsp.674
Payne, P., Levine, P. A., & Crane-Godreau, M. A. (2015). Somatic experiencing: Using interoception and proprioception as core elements of trauma therapy. Frontiers in Psychology, 6, 93. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2015.00093
Porges, S. W. (2011). The polyvagal theory: Neurophysiological foundations of emotions, attachment, communication, and self-regulation. W. W. Norton & Company.
White, M., & Epston, D. (1990). Narrative means to therapeutic ends. Norton & Company.